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announcement

The Marriage Preparation Course at Ealing Abbey is on hold due to the pandemic. Interested couples, please contact the parish office, and we will notify you when it is possible to hold the course.

Email – parishoffice@ealingabbey.org.uk

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marriage

God calls everyone to be holy, which is to be like God. The best way to become like God is to become people of love.

Marriage is a school of love that many are called to by God. It is not just the vows of one person to another. It is also God’s vow that in their mutual love the couple can be certain to find Him, and bring Him to others.

In Marriage, the couple are called to help one another, and their children, to find their way to Heaven; that is to encounter God and live in that relationship. This is impossible on our own, so God gives the couple grace through the Sacrament of Marriage to be able to sanctify themselves and others. In Marriage, the couple have from God everything they need to be holy and to raise children to know and love God.

Marriage is a joyful adventure and a wonderful calling to follow Christ with a total giving of one’s life in love to a spouse and, God willing, to children.

"Marriage may be exacting, but it's such a beautiful way of life. How wonderful that our Lord has given us this "perfecting" institution, and how much more wonderful that He has given us the grace to live it to the fullest!"
Scott Hahn

‘Marriage is made in Heaven’ – but so is thunder and lightning! ‘Marriage is an institution’ – but those who are in an institution for life are often considered to have a different view of life & the implications of that are often negative.

C. S. Lewis the great Christian apologist writes:

“Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last but feelings come and go. And in fact, whatever people say, the state called ‘being in love’ usually does not last. If the old fairy-tale ending ‘They lived happily ever after’ is taken to mean ‘They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married,’ then it says what probably never was nor ever would be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years?

What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships? But, of course, ceasing to be ‘in love’ need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense — love as distinct from ‘being in love’ — is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be ‘in love’ with someone else. ‘Being in love’ first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.”

If you feel called to married life, come and pray with us to discern what is in God’s heart for you and your loved one.

"If a man and a woman marry in order to be companions on the journey through earth to heaven, then their union will bring great joy to themselves and to others."​
St John Chrysostom

organising a wedding

You have just got engaged, congratulations.

Let’s walk together on this path

to the Sacrament of Marriage.

Contact Parish Office

Get in touch with us to let us know of your intention to get married. We will send you the Registration forms. Give us a call on 020 8194 2301 or email the parish office.

Please Note: Weddings at St Benedict’s Parish Church are reserved for Parishioners or those who have a strong connection to the Parish.

Initial Meeting

We will organise for the two of you to meet with a Priest to discuss this great Christian path that lies ahead of you both and, God willing, your children.

Marriage Preparation

We have a Marriage Preparation Course to help both of you ready yourself for married life. The course runs three times a year. The dates are below and details are below

Contact Parish Office

Get in touch with us to let us know of your intention to get married. We will send you the Registration forms. Give us a call on 020 8194 2301 or email parishoffice@ealingabbey.org.uk.

Initial Meeting

We will organise for the two of you to meet with a Priest to discuss this great Christian path that lies ahead of you both and, God willing, your children.

Marriage Preparation

We have a Marriage Preparation Course to help both of you ready yourself for married life. The course runs three times a year. The dates are below and details are below

Please Note: Weddings at St Benedict’s Parish Church are reserved for Parishioners or those who have a strong connection to the Parish.

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“Marriage is a great joy and a privilege. To be called by God to play a part in my spouse’s journey of faith is amazing.”

Read Frank and Jill’s story

"Now, we must help each other to get to Heaven."
Bl Charles of Austria to his wife
(the day after their wedding)